Sunday, March 26, 2017

Sunday Thoughts... Rest with no guilt

"If we do not allow for a rhythm of rest in our overly busy lives, 
illness becomes our Sabbath---our pneumonia, our cancer, our heart attack, 
our accidents create Sabbath for us".
Wayne Muller,  Sabbath
(taken from  "Rhythms of Rest)


Spring Break...Resting and recharging...
no guilt!

This was my instagram post a week ago.   And.... this is pretty much how I spent my week. 
I have done nothing, and I have done everything.

When I left school Friday, the beginning of a week long break, I was exhausted.  I wasn't physically tired, my spirit was empty.  I left feeling like I had nothing left to give.  I had allowed too many things to weigh on my heart.   Some things are worthy of taking up space, the rest is clutter.   I allow the clutter to gather and empty me.

Worthy or not, very little can I control.  I don't know about you, but it is those things I cannot make better that wear down the heart... the soul... the spirit.  Everyone has something, some place, someone they go to when the well is empty.  Would it surprise you it was a book where I rested this week?



This was one of those finds placed in front of me so often, I had to pick it up to see what it was all about.  Yes... I do believe things are set in our path when we need them.

Shelly Miller shares her thoughts and experiences on implementing the practice of rest, Sabbath.  The older I get the more I realize I can't do it all.  About 70 + pages in I was slapped in the face with a question.  "Do you often help others, but rarely, if ever, admit you need help?  If your answer is yes, you may be deriving a false sense of self-worth."   I wrote to the side.... maybe.    Just days before stumbling into those words I had been ask by the one closest to my heart, "Why do you think you have to do everything yourself?"  Bam!

The jewel I take away from this book (I think each reader will take away what they are needing)  rest is not sitting down for a day, but learning to take a block of time to put away the work, the chores and do what fills you... curling up with a book, pulling weeds in the garden, writing, cooking a great meal, enjoying a glass of wine and conversation with a good friend.   I can implement rest on my terms and my schedule... and not feel guilty.

From the back of the book,
"Sabbath is a from God to be embraced, not a spiritual hoop to jump through..."

My book is filled with underlinings, asterisks and sticky tabs.   There is so much rich text between the covers, I will be referring back for encouragement often.   Learning to put the "have to" to the side for awhile will take some intentional practice.

And, on the other end of the spectrum.  I recently finished Trials of the Earth by Mary Mann Hamilton.  This was a book group read, though not my selection, I pushed for this one during our book selection.   When I began the book, the simplicity of the writing pulled me in, but caused me to wonder how my fellow readers would review it.

 
Trials of the Earth, is Mary Mann Hamilton's remarkable life's story.  The simplicity of the writing is what made this autobiography enjoyable.   Her story is one of heartbreak, one disaster after another, and true love.  Though she often speaks of needing rest there was never time.   Her life is spent raising and burying children, running a boardinghouse, living in a logging camps,  watching one dream after stolen, and never losing faith in a husband with a mysterious past.

I finished Trials of the Earth, after our book discussion (everyone seemed to enjoy it... the discussion was lively), and....
I loved, loved, loved this book.

Today is my last day of spring break and I am ready to return.
I hope you are enjoying a restful weekend doing what gives you rest.
I hope you will share where and how you find rest when you are depleted.


9 comments:

  1. I have always been a person of hope but have not been feeling that lately and I can't seem to kick it. As you so perfectly put it, my spirit is empty. I am not tired from doing too much; I am tired from doing things that don't count or give me joy. I am hoping that spring will turn things around, but I know that it is only me who is in charge and only me who can change things around. I need to pick some weeds.

    Thank you for this beautiful, insightful post. I always love your words, Bonnie.

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  2. Dear Bonnie this is one of those posts I needed to read. I am going to check out this book. Like you I have been burnt out. Spending time doing gardening over the weekend helped restore me a bit. Just need more. Wonderful post Bonnie. So glad you had rest. Hugs!

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  3. Arleen, Thank you so much for your comment. There is most. definitely something about weeding. It is cathartic. I've always said I am closer to God in the garden than anywhere. Have a wonderful weekend!

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    1. Debbie, I hope you enjoy it! It is a faith based look at the importance of rest. And, I find myself in a season of lending into my faith more than ever. Thank you so much for your kind words. Have a wonderful week!

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  4. I find it so very refreshing to receive this post today from you.
    The gift of you in my life . . .
    Two new books . . .
    Thoughts, feelings of thankfulness for you . . .

    And this quote . . .
    "If we do not allow for a rhythm of rest in our overly busy lives,
    illness becomes our Sabbath---our pneumonia, our cancer, our heart attack,
    our accidents create Sabbath for us".
    Wayne Muller, Sabbath
    (taken from "Rhythms of Rest)

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  5. Bonnie,

    Good for you! I am happy to hear that you relaxed and rested! Everyone needs to really take a break from life sometimes. As I age I have really put more and more restrictions on my time, meaning I do not let too much stuff or people take up "my time." Typically I save my time for the weekends, I do not go to the gym or yoga, I sleep late about 7:00 then I get a cup of cocoa and drink it in bed while reading for awhile. I pamper me, something I never used to do and frankly it feels nice.

    Thanks you for the book tips, I had not heard of these two and am off to buy them on amazon!

    Have a wonderful week my friend!

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  6. This is a great post Bonnie!!! I sometimes get confused with resting and wasting time, being busy and having clutter!! Every day I try to do at least one fun thing, one thing that I really enjoy. Be gentle with yourself Bonnie, you have a full plate!!

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  7. I agree so completely with everything you wrote. Why does it take us so long in life to figure these things out? I think it takes women much longer than men. Both of these books sound like good ones to add to the reading list!

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  8. It is very important to rest. I think also to let go of the idea that we should always be striving and achieving. Have a peaceful and wonderful Easter!

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